There I was, minding my own business, when an old friend from my high school and college days just up and slapped me in the face.
Some people read the daily news over their morning coffee. I log on to see what's happening in the world. And this morning, when I logged in to FaceBook, there it was: I almost blew my breakfast. My entire laptop screen, it seemed, filled with some of the ugliest hate speech I've seen since--well, come to think of it, since I read that cop's e-mail the day before yesterday. But that's another story for another day.
There's a poll on facebook asking whether people think gays should be able to adopt. As I said in my comment when I voted, these surveys are ridiculously unscientific, but at least some of them get people talking. The talk swirling around this one, however, is frighteningly ugly. Here's what my erstwhile friend had to say:
If queers want children, they should not be queers. Keep hoping natural selection would weed them out eventually.
That's just so hateful, and such a shock hearing it come out of his mouth, I don't even know where to start with him. The subject of hate in general, and homophobia in particular,
So if you will kindly indulge me, I'm gonna go all clinical on y'all for a bit.
Search "homophobia" on PsycNET and you get a whopping 1,878 returns. Here's the Cliff's Notes version, along with some personal experience and clinical wisdom.
Psychodynamic theory originally posited that people who loudly proclaim that 'gay is awful' are actually gay themselves and just don't know it. Research results are mixed on that one. What does clearly seem to be going on is that people who express prejudicial attitudes have (a) defined the minority target as 'bad' and (b) are shoring up their own identity as 'not bad', distancing themselves through expressions of hate. So while homophobia may not be related to one's own sexual preferences, conscious or otherwise, the expression of homophobia may occur precisely as one's identity has been threatened--for whatever reason.
In plain English, the secure are not prejudiced: Expressed prejudice is a sign of insecurity according to this theory. If this is true, then when prejudicial statements are made in the context of a therapy session, the therapist need not address the prejudice at all, but may choose instead to hone in on the feeling behind it. Resolve that, and the prejudice should follow. Education won't work, if this theory is correct, because the person whose identity as 'good' is threatened needs some action (expressed attitude) to shore it up. If lesbian/gay people become 'not bad' through education and the dissolution of stereotypes, some other target will have to take its place.
Homophobia has also been associated with hypermasculinity: Together, these two theories might explain the otherwise puzzling behavior on my friend's part. You see, we both have disabilities. We both have experienced ableism. Wouldn't you think that we would be especially sensitive toward other minorities? But society almost ungenders the disabled, we are so perceived as 'not sexy'. Perhaps my friend is dealing with an internalized sense of self
Homophobia specifically by men against men has been related to a specific type of identity disturbance whereby feminine aspects of the self are disavowed (split off). Of course, this only works if you stereotype (gay=fey) and only works for hatred of gay men. It is also at present theoretical, not empirical.
Homophobia has been associated with a general lack of empathy (difficulties in perspective-taking), low Openness to Experience in trait theory, and with (in)tolerance for ambiguity. Contrary to many homophobes' claims to moral superiority, there actually may be a negative correlation between moral development and homophobia. From a psychodynamic perspective, homophobia has been found to correlate with the defenses of denial and isolation.
One thing researchers have learned is that
Or maybe he's never noticed. Maybe, as a female, I'm invisible to him. Either way, we apparently have some talking to do. The prospect overwhelms me though, so I'm going to take refuge again, with your indulgence, in a little more science.
There is some evidence that education can reduce prejudice, but insofar as it works at all, it seems to have more impact on women. My personal experience has been that you can talk to prejudiced people until you turn blue in the face and it will not put a dent in their attitudes. Perhaps that's because it's inborn: One enterprising research team did a humonguous twin study which seemed to demonstrate that, via assortative mating, homophobia (or lack thereof) is transmitted genetically. Interestingly, they found support for the common observation that males are more likely to be homophobic than females.
A couple of interesting sources I found via PsycNET:
By Aosved, Allison C.; Long, Patricia J.
Sex Roles. Vol 55(7-8), Oct 2006, 481-492.
By Barrett, Kimberly Ann
Dissertation Abstracts International Section A: Humanities and Social Sciences. 57(6-A), Dec 1996, pp. 2331.
By Debiak, Dennis Michael
Dissertation Abstracts International: Section B: The Sciences and Engineering. 56(4-B), Oct 1995, pp. 2320.
By Finken, Laura L.
Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality. Vol 14(1), 2002, 37-46.
By Moradi, Bonnie; van den Berg, Jacob J.; Epting, Franz R.
Journal of Counseling Psychology. Vol 53(1), Jan 2006, 57-66.
By Verweij, Karin J. H.; Shekar, Sri N.; Zietsch, Brendan P.; Eaves, Lindon J.; Bailey, Michael; Boomsma, Dorret I.; Martin, Nicholas G.
Behavior Genetics. Vol 38(3), 2008, 257-265.
I am not entirely sure that these links will work if you don't have a subscription to PsycNET: If it turns out that they don't, please consider this my advance apology. College students and faculty can access them free through Galileo; others may be able to find some available open-source.
By Wood, Peter B.; Bartkowski, John P.
Social Science Quarterly. Vol 85(1), Mar 2004, 58-74.
I am not entirely sure that these links will work if you don't have a subscription to PsycNET: If it turns out that they don't, please consider this my advance apology. College students and faculty can access them free through Galileo; others may be able to find some available open-source.
